There comes a time in life when you reach a crossroad. A big one. You feel stuck, stagnant and maybe even suffocated. Your life needs direction, as examining “what has been” and “what will be” causes depression and panic. Change is needed, drastic change.
Let’s return to this crossroad, the major point in your life where you must decide if you’re going to continue upon life’s path or are you going to change things up and recalculate your route and change the direction of your life.
Naturally, standing at this crossroad and staring each path down can be very frightening and stressful. And it is this fear and stress that may lead you to choose the wrong path. So how does one prepare himself for the big dilemmas that life has to offer and come out the victor?
Here are a few tips that can hopefully help you find the route that’s right for you.
Keep calm and stop analyzing
Whenever a situation requires a big decision, stress and anxiety seem to be predominate feelings involved. This is not good. The first step to reducing this undesired stress and anxiety is to close your eyes, take a deep breath and stop overthinking. You are not a prophet, so no matter how much you stress about it, you, like the rest of us, have no idea what the future has in store. Also, you are not a computer or robot, so stop trying to calculate every step and possibility along the way.
Trust your gut
Now you are probably asking yourselves, “ok, I stopped over-analyzing and calculating every step. Now what?” The next step to proper decision making is a very simple, very important yet very difficult one. Some people call it a gut-feeling, some call it instinct and some even say that it’s their sixth sense. Whatever it is, trust it. Some decisions must be made from the head, as weighing pros and cons, logically analyzing the situation and siding with reason is the way to go. Other decisions must be made from the heart, as reason and logic are replaced by desires and emotions. The truly difficult decisions have you torn between head and heart, logic and desire. This is where your gut comes into play. Here, you must follow that most inner-gut-feeling and let your instinct guide you to either follow reason and rationale, or listen to your heart.
Stick with it
The decision has been made, the route has been chosen and now you are progressing along the path that you have chosen. At this point, the most important thing to do is stick with it. No second-guessing. No regrets. No “what could have been”. A mistake is a learning experience; it is not the end of the world, and if you realize that you indeed made a mistake, you can always create a new fork in the road, once again redirecting the route of your life. In order for your decision to truly fulfil it’s potential, you must commit to that decision. Worst case scenario – you find yourself once again at a critical crossroads. All you have to do is redo these steps and try again.